Meet Captain Normal, the master and commander of the SS Mainstream. It sails the calmest lagoons of the ocean of western culture. The ship flies no flag. It doesn't have to. It does not need to raise a banner to state in advance any of the fundamental banner messages:...

The DJ has the tempo pinned at 140 bpm - the fuck rhythm. Other than the green lasers, it’s murky dark. The beams crawl over a 50-man ruck of hairy bellies and butts and big shoulders and beards. They mostly wear harnesses and straps. Sturdy men writhing over each...

This article looks at the question of: Is it okay for transgender people to fight in MMA? As a very fit and active person who is trans, the “trans in sport” question is on my mind. However, I’m no fighter. So the “trans in combat sports” question is a new one for me....

Online and in boutiques, there are a lot of wigs on offer and a lot of suppliers. How do you find the one for you? Well, you start by knowing what to avoid. That’s what this article is about that. Now, you might not believe how many wigs I have that I simply don’t...

Finding a good transgender chatroom is hard because no one understands what everyone else in the room is after … and everyone has an agenda. Before my egg cracked and I decided to “all in”, I lived a double-life. A straight-acting man in the daylight world and a woman...

ZMeet Ay. Ay is going for a run. Ay is obese and knows they need to improve their health and is doing something about it. So, Ay is out running: going slow and breathing hard. Then, a car slows alongside. Zee leans out the window and yells: “Ha ha, but you’re still...

Two outta three ain’t bad - easy, comfy, obvious In doing physical projects, you have probably heard the expression "you can choose two of good, fast or cheap". This age-old sentiment bears an element of truth and can be applied to a variety of situations. I'd like to...

Your gender identity does not make “sense”, even if you are cis. It does not answer to “sense”. It’s an internal state that a person feels. Gender identity is a feeling of fit. There is no “why” that underpins your gender identity. Even if there may be a “why” that...

The decisions you make always have consequences, and your decisions become more consequential when you do something about them. For, yes, there are many decisions made with nothing to show for them. These decisions tend to be those not to upset the status quo. To be...

Part of the thing that compelled me to begin taking the transition question seriously was being fed up. I was fed up with my preoccupation with my gender identity. It felt like it was just taking up pointless amounts of time and mental energy. I needed to end the...

If you are reading this, you’re already trans or gender questioning. That’s assumption one. Assumption two is that transitioning may be important for fully integrating your character. That’s a dull thing to posit, but let’s build on it. Let’s focus on the “fully...

Someone reached out to me. Someone questioning their gender. Someone like you perhaps. Their problem was devastating in its familiarity: family and financial responsibilities had trapped them in a life and they couldn’t tell if they wanted it. Let’s call this person...